The Inner Critic: Understanding the Voice Within

We have all experienced that inner voice, the one that whispers, “You should have done better,” or “You’re not good enough.” This is the inner critic: a harsh internal dialogue that can leave you feeling small, anxious, or ashamed.

Where does the inner critic come from?

The inner critic often begins as a form of protection. Somewhere along the way, you may have learned that being perfect, quiet, helpful, or in control kept you safe, or kept others happy. Over time, that voice internalised. It tries to keep you from failing or being hurt, but ends up limiting your confidence and joy.

What it sounds like

It might say:

• “You always mess things up.”

• “Everyone else is doing better than you.”

• “You can’t do this.”

How therapy can help

Therapy helps you get to know and acknowledge your inner voice, rather than fighting it. In therapy, we explore:

• Where it came from

• What it’s trying to protect you from

• What a kinder, more balanced voice might sound like

You begin to see that the critic isn’t the truth. As compassion grows, the critic's power wanes. You start to respond to yourself the way you might to a good friend, with kindness, patience, and understanding.

Therapy helps you develop an inner ally, a voice that encourages rather than attacks. This doesn’t mean ignoring mistakes or pain, but meeting them with care.

You can begin to ask: What would I say to someone I love who felt this way? Then, slowly, you start saying it to yourself.